Err in the direction of kindness

Now, one useful thing you can do with an old person, in addition to borrowing money from them, or asking them to do one of their old-time “dances,” so you can watch, while laughing, is ask: “Looking back, what do you regret?” And they’ll tell you. Sometimes, as you know, they’ll tell you even if you haven’t asked. Sometimes, even when you’ve specifically requested they not tell you, they’ll tell you.

• • •

The dangers of hasty self-deprecation

Hating yourself is healthy, I think. You’re great, but you could be a lot better. Being online, however, makes it difficult to hate yourself properly. As countless bitter weenies have noted, being online means leaving a forever record of your shitty, ignorant notions.

• • •

Celebrating failure is a cop out

Don’t be an industry douche. They call themselves ninjas or gurus…even evangelists. They’re the ones who will tell you, to your face, that they are smarter than the other guy. They’re the ones who have stopped reading by now.

• • •